Monday, May 23, 2016

The Invisible War In Marriage Pt. 1: Knowing Your Enemy

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal (of the flesh) but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled. -2 Corinthians 10: 4-6

You and I have one enemy, and its not your spouse. Please let that sink in.

In order for us to know the purpose of a thing we have to go back to the source. In this case mankind. God, Himself is the creator of man. He personally and intimately involved Himself with all creation. Let's look at a couple scriptures that speak of this...

The Source of Mankind

Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. -Genesis 1:26-27

The Making of Mankind

And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. -Genesis 2:7

According to Genesis 1:26-27 God is tripartite: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. We are made up of 3 parts (1) Spirit, (2) Soul, and (3) Body. We are a spirit; we have a soul; we live in a body.

Let's look at this in more detail by examining this diagram...

So as you can see in the picture, there are 3 parts that have been divided; spirit, soul, and body. God is a Spirit. He gave us a Soul; which is made up of 3 parts (our mind, our will, and our emotions). We (spirit) live in a Body

We are spirit, we possess a soul, and we live in a body. We are Spirit. If you don't know this or believe this here's another scripture to look at...

Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely; and may your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. -1 Thessalonians 5:23

Now this has everything to do with your marriage. In fact the understanding of this truth applies to every relationship that we have with other people. Why?

Two Different Wars

There two kinds of wars, did you know that? (1) visible (2) invisible. We are affected by both.


You ever felt like your in a war, like your wrestling with something or somebody...

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual host of wickedness in the heavenly places.-Ephesians 6:12 

What this means is everything that we see that is going on around us everyday in the natural "seen" world has its origin (or beginnings) in the spiritual "unseen" world.

Now why is this so important to know? Because if you don't know who your real enemy is, you'll keep wasting time and energy losing battle after battle, staying frustrated, aggravated, angry at the one that God created (if your married) to help you deal with this enemy.

If you don't know what your aiming at you won't know when you hit the target. In other words if your having ongoing problems in your relationship and can't figure out why things are the way they are, then how can you come out of the situation successfully. You can't. 

Listen to what the Apostle Paul said about accomplishing what he set out to do

Therefore I do not run without a definite goal; I do not flail around like one beating the air [just shadow boxing]. -1st Corinthians 9:26 AMP

Apostle Paul knew why he was born. He made plans and set goals in view of God's plan for his life.

Now why is this important? Because if we don't know the purpose of a thing, we will abuse the thing. Pointedly: If you don't know the reason for marriage you won't know what to do in your marriage. If you don't know the purpose of your spouse; male (husband), or female (wife) you will abuse them. Also children, family, relationships, etc...

All of these interactions with people on all levels is an exchange of visible and invisible reality.

Remember, we are a Spirit, we possess a Soul, we live in a Body. All of us.

Listen to what Jesus said...

It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh conveys no benefit [it is of no account]. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life [providing eternal life]. -John 6:63 AMP

The Spirit in us, that came from God (see Gen. 2:7) is life; or the breath of life. Without the spirit in us, there would be no life.

For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also. -James 2:26

Here's another diagram that brings this out the reality of God Spirit living us

As you can see from this diagram, the Spirit of God (Holy Spirit) was breathed into man (breath of life) and Man who is spirit -made in the image and likeness of God (who is Spirit) placed in a body (formed from the dust of the ground)  became a living being (or soul).

I repeat this is everything.  Once you get this, understand this, and accept this, you can stop wasting time and energy, being frustrated and angry, taking it out on each other. You can know and hit the right target. If your ready...  then now it's time to discover and address your real enemy. 

Marriage Problems

In most marriage we focus on what we feel is the problem that's going on. I can tell you now no matter  the "what" it all stems from not a root problem which may need to be addressed and dealt with but the greater issues is more a "who" the problem maker is. It's another spirit.

Who is the problem?

Know Your Enemy

He said to them, "I watched Satan fall from heaven like [a flash of] lightning. -Luke 10:18

According to scripture Satan was the most beautiful angel. Anointed by God as Lucifer, likely the highest of all angels, the anointed cherub, the most beautiful of all of God's creation, but he was not content in his position. He wanted to be God. In fact he was the one who tempted Adam and Eve in the garden. (see Gen. 3:1-5)

Satan didn't just fall out of heaven, he was cast (pushed) out by God.  

The Fall of Lucifer                                                     

“How you are fallen from heaven,
O Lucifer, son of the morning!
How you are cut down to the ground,
You who weakened the nations!
For you have said in your heart:
‘I will ascend into heaven,
I will exalt my throne above the stars of God;
I will also sit on the mount of the congregation
On the farthest sides of the north;
 I will ascend above the heights of the clouds,
I will be like the Most High.’
 Yet you shall be brought down to Sheol,
To the lowest depths of the Pit. -(Isaiah 14:12-15)

So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan who deceives the whole world; he was cast to earth, and his angels were cast out with him. -Revelation 12:9

Satan is your problem. He's all of our problem. He hates your marriage. He's even gone as far as to change the way God intended marriage to be, between: one man and one woman. (see Gen. 2:24)

Everyone one that has the breath of life (pneuma-meaning spirit) living on the inside of them is an enemy of the devil. For more understanding about our enemy and what he represents in the world today read my post on the "The Truth About Divorce Pt. II- Father of Divorce"

Indeed if your not sure by now there is a real WAR going on. More than the one we see around us everyday. There's a greater war happening in the unseen- a world we can not see with our natural eyes, for the souls of men.

The Battleground 

The weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood]. Our weapons are divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ, being ready to punish every act of of disobedience, when our obedience is complete. -2 Corinthians 10:4-6 

Lets review:

1 a. We are not fighting people!
1 b. The war we are fighting is spiritual.
(v.4) The weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood].

2. The weapons we use to fight this war are spiritual.
(v.4) Our weapons are divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses.

3. The war that we are fighting is in the mind. (ideas, evil thoughts, imaginations, untruths, lies, anything that's contrary to God's law found in His word). 
(v.5) We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God,

4. We are responsible for pulling down spiritual strongholds. (strong arguments, ideas, lies, views, evil thoughts, imaginations) 
(v.5) we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ

5. We must obey God's word by doing what Jesus did against Satan. (see Matt. 4:1-11/Luke 4:1-13)
(v.6) being ready to punish every act of of disobedience, when our obedience is complete

*make a note of this! (spirits are illegal in the earth without a body) more to come another time about this.

How Do Evil Spirits Influence Us?

Through the mind

The Battle for the souls of people is waged in the minds of people.

So what's the answer to overcoming your struggles

The Solution: Renewing Your Mind

And do not conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].-Romans 12:2 AMP

You must get a hold of Gods word. Read the bible daily. Meditate on scripture. Memorize scripture verses. What this is doing is feeding your spirit man. When your mind is renewed to think like God then eventually you'll start responding to situations in your life the way God would. His word is the key. Speaking God's word over your marriage, children, family, relationships, etc... is the answer to creating the a "firewall" of protection around your life. When you begin to do this each day you will start to see changes take place for the better.

The next time we will look at your spiritual wardrobe. You gotta be dressed right for the battle!

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